I know the struggle, the wonder, the fear that no one cares when it’s 2 a.m. and your whole house is sleeping soundly, except for you.
Maybe you’re up soothing the baby wondering why everyone else gets sleep while you’re up trying to function.
Or you’re rehearsing your to-do list, going over bills in your head, or finishing a project for work.
Maybe you’re doing it all: running the house, the finances, working and you’re still up soothing the baby while the rest of the house seems to be at peace.
Perhaps your little ones are finally sleeping soundly, but the noise in your head won’t stop. You wonder how you planned, prayed and dreamed but life still seems so hard.
How many doctor appointments can one child need?
Did your parents really have to juggle so many demands from your elementary school?
Does anyone else struggle to get along with a spouse they love?
Is Kelly from Bible study always ready with the right scripture for every problem? Her house must be at such peace.
You wonder why there seems to be less peace in your home. No matter how hard you think, you can’t figure out how to squeeze in more time in the Word. You want to pray, but you’re not even sure what to say, you’re just so tired.
Dear struggling mama, God sees you. He sees the scratches and bumps you wipe clean and kiss. He sees the fifth dirty diaper you changed today. God sees your thoughts, how you constantly try to meet everyone’s demands so they all feel loved and cared for.
God sees you meet work deadlines while juggling the football schedule. He sees you pushing yourself forward to care for your family after tragedy visits your home.
God sees you trying to love your family even when your own heart is breaking.
He sees you even when it seems like no one else does.
For God is not unjust to forget your work and labor of love which you have shown toward His name, in that you have ministered to the saints, and do minister. – Hebrews 6:10
Your children are part of the body of Christ. Your husband is part of the body too. Sometimes being a wife, being a mother, it feels monotonous. It does not feel like you’re changing the world like a globe trotting missionary.
But God, God sees your work. He sees you ministering to your family. And when you are committed to your family, ministering to them is just as faithful as worldwide missions.
God called you to motherhood. But He didn’t call you to it to leave you alone and weary. This broken world makes motherhood incredibly hard at times, but He is with you, He sees you.
Dear Mama, Don’t Make It Harder Than It Needs To Be
Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light. – Matthew 11:28-30
Dear struggling mama, what yoke are you carrying?
Are you carrying the yoke of a mama worried about how other parents view your contribution to the class party?
Are you carrying the yoke of keeping up with the Joneses?
Is there a dream, a hope, a desire that seems only possible with the Lord, yet in your own strength you try to accomplish it?
Do you wonder how many likes and comments your latest post is getting?
Do you stress about each parenting interaction you have trying to be sure your kids see you as a friend?
On this earth we will have hardship, but are you inviting a bit extra? Are you carrying an unnecessary yoke?
How much peace can you find in giving up the worldly yokes for Jesus’s?
It is not easy to keep your focus on things eternal, but it is worth it. And in it, even when it is hard, you can have peace.
If you are like me, you may struggle to figure out how to be a productive member of society earth side, a good parent and a good wife while keeping your eyes on things eternal. In those moments where I struggle to find balance, that is when I need to seek the Lord for guidance.
But When It Is Simply Hard, No Matter The Choices You Make, He Is Still There
Maybe you read the last section and thought, “I could not care less what anyone else thinks, but my life is just so hard right now.”
I get it mama, I’ve been there. Some moments are simply hard. You see people around you and wonder if anyone has a struggle like you.
In those moments, you need to rest in Him. I know that it is easy to say, sometimes easy to read the scriptures, but to live it out is harder.
In those moments, rest may simply mean meditating on His promises; seeking Him for peace which passes all understanding; and trusting that He sees you.
Fear not, for I am with you;
Be not dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you,
Yes, I will help you,
I will uphold you with My righteous right hand. – Isaiah 41:10
Dear Mama, If You Feel Unseen, Know That God Sees You
If you’re struggling today, if life seems hard, monotonous, if you feel unseen, know that God sees you. He sees your work. He sees your fears and concerns. Rest in this reminder, that your work is unto Him, not those around you.
And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance; for you serve the Lord Christ. – Colossians 3:23-24
If you are really struggling, read through the story of Hagar (Genesis 16). Honestly, through my human eyes I struggle to understand how one woman could face such hardships. But I know through biblical eyes that earth is fallen and filled with broken people.
Sometimes our hardships are simply a symptom of a broken world. Other time our pain is collateral damage from existing with other fallen, sinful humans. And yes, there are times our pain is the result of a choice we made. But whatever the cause, whether it makes perfect sense or leaves you with questions which may never have answers, I promise God sees you and is with you.
Then she called the name of the Lord who spoke to her, You are the God who sees; for she said, “Have I also here seen Him who sees me?” – Genesis 16:13
Whether you struggle because you are physically exhausted or mentally drained, whether you’re simply feeling unseen while your hard work goes unnoticed by those around you, or you’re facing a big trial, the Lord knows, and the Lord sees. Rest in His promises, mama, you are not unseen.
But You, O Lord, know me;
You have seen me, – Jeremiah 12:3
Wondering why life can be so hard at times? Be sure to read When Heart Work Is Hard Work.